How Do You Process and Handle Life? How do you and your partner process and handle life? My husband and I are very different. I tend to worry, am reactive and am very expressive. My husband lets life roll, for the most part stays calm, and keeps his thoughts to himself. When conflict arrises between…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
This is the rule that started the ball rolling with this entire 55 Rules for Love series. During a recent trip to Mexico, my husband and I were struggling with a few of our differences. These struggles inspired me to review a list of love rules called 55 Rules For Love that Michel and I…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
Photo Credit – Whisper.ch Types of Comparisons Comparisons are sure death to the relationship. There are, in my thoughts, three ways to compare: Comparing your marriage to another couple’s seemingly “perfect” marriage Comparing yourself to your spouse’s past partners Comparing your current partner to a partner of yours in the past My Musings On This……
Goodbye 2021 – Hello 2022
New Year’s Day Tradition Since 2015, when I married my husband and moved overseas to Qatar, I enjoyed a tradition of starting each New Year’s Day in a different country. I was able to start this tradition because Michael and I worked in education and during Christmas Break, we would travel. I’m allowing myself the…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
I like this rule – because I believe a wee bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship. Within the many dynamic fibers woven into the matrix of a marriage is the expression of making each other feel the ultimate special. You are important to me, I value you and I will show you this,…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
Control = Fear I have spoken many times during this Rules For Love blog series of my fear and it’s roots in trauma. Fear, if not understood and embraced to heal in a marriage, creates havoc. Trying to control my husband as a result of my fears and inability to trust, certainly created havoc. Embracing…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
Drama = Theatrics = Making a Big Deal Over Nothing = Overreacting = Being Irrational = Acting Crazy = Me Well, how I used to be. I’ve come a long way from screaming at my husband during a heated, one-sided argument, as he hides in the car with windows rolled up and doors locked, while…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
Our past makes up the matrix of who we are in this moment. It is the past, our experiences that give us knowledge and wisdom in the present, in the now. Or our past can keep us trapped, stuck in repetitive cycles, like spinning tires in the sand – when we don’t let it go….
55 Rules For Love – Rule #13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
There are many spiritual leaders and mindfulness teachers who have written a variety of books on the benefits of living life in the present moment. Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Louise Hay to name a few… Living life in the present moment while married, as in all aspects of life, brings so…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
Whatever my going is, that is tough for me, may be very different for Michael and vice versa. Recognizing this is a major first step towards supporting each other. The Going is Tough – Isolation Right now my going is tough. Michael and I are spending the winter apart as he is in British Columbia…