This Morning… As I lay in bed processing this Rule #41, I asked my husband Michael his thoughts on it. Our conversation evolved into determining the difference between complimenting each other, and what a romantic gesture is compared to being thoughtful. Complimenting each other is its own rule, Rule #38 – Compliment Often. Romance and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said
Difficult Conversations I would imagine, even for the most experienced communicator, that there are conversations where some words are hard to say. There is a deep yearning within, a hope the recipient of the difficult conversation has some understanding of what the conversation is about – and is able to have the profound level of…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other
To Discover To discover, basically means to find something unexpected about my husband, Michael, that I didn’t see before. I Do This Best When I’m in the present moment, not trying to change anything about it. I’m not wearing lenses of preference, judgement, bias, or opinion. This discovery could be during a stressful time, a…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often
I Feel Noticed Over a year ago, I started running and stopped drinking alcohol. Six months ago I changed my eating habits to exclude refined sugars, processed foods and meat. I eat fish and plant-based proteins. I’ve lost close to 30 lbs and feel the best I’ve ever felt. I feel fit. Strong. Healthy. My…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts
Cognitive Distortions I’ve had enough personal experience in therapy to be well aware of the types of cognitive distortions there are, usually addressed with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, CBT. This blog isn’t about how this therapy works. I’m referring to CBT to identify the types of cognitive distortions or, simply put – negative thinking – that…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love
Kate and Toby Recently, my husband Michael and I started watching the powerful family drama, This Is Us, on Netflix. We immediately fell in love with the show. We’re nearing the end of the first season, and as I prepared to dive into writing Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Love Away, I thought…
Personal Development – Living An Alcohol Free Life – Year One
February 17th, 2020 I stopped drinking alcohol. Reflections – Year One As I sit here, sipping my morning coffee, I think back over my first year of living alcohol free. There were many, many times I wanted to drink. Taking CBD for anxiety, helped reduce my cravings. Attending Alcoholics Anonymous meetings during a particularly rough…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games
What Are Mind Games? I have to say, defining a mind game was not as easy as I thought when I started searching the Internet for clarity. The best example I could find was described on Wikipedia. I like the cowboy/visitor example. I will insert the exact description: “Eric Berne described a psychological game as an…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend
Photo Credit – The Random Vibez That One Person I’m someone who keeps people at a distance, as I tend to energetically become drained. Nature is where I am most at home. Near water, surrounded by trees and earth. I’ve moved around a lot, met lots of wonderful people along the way, but, historically I…
Chapter II – Dome Frequencies
What is a Frequency? First, I had to figure out what a frequency is. According to Wikipedia, there are a variety of frequencies: temporal, spatial, and angular. ¹ Too technical for me. Basically, a frequency is the number of times something occurs. In domes – a frequency is how many times an icosahedron edge has…
