55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

Opposites attract. The differences that draw a couple together can become a source of many disagreements later in the relationship, if these differences are not embraced. However, there always has to be space to grow and learn as a couple embraces their differences along their path of personal growth and mutual respect. Complacency is certain…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow

Ways to Learn I’m thinking there are two ways a couple can learn: Learn a new hobby or activity together Learn about each other Ways to Grow – Working Together Growing as a couple can blossom while working on a hobby or project together, as this will inevitably bring about how you communicate, collaborate and…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

Manipulation Means? According to Dictionary.com, the definition of manipulation is: “…influencing or attempting to influence the behavior or emotions of others for one’s own purposes: a manipulative boss.” Psychology Today Canada defines psychological manipulation as one person is used for the benefit of the other – there is not a constructive give and take in…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

Judgement Vs Opinion Don’t judge. My first thought is what is the difference between a judgment and an opinion. An opinion is what I think any given thing “should be”, not necessarily based on facts or knowledge. A judgement is the result of the facts of what I’m thinking about and come to a sensible…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

To What is Being Said – Active Listening Rule #20 is Communicate Openly and Honestly. I write at length about the skill of active listening, a skill that gives space to communicate openly and honestly with each other. I’ve included the link below to read more on this rule: 55 Rules For Love – Rule…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

How We Process and Handle Life How do you and your partner process and handle life? My husband and I are very different. I tend to worry, am reactive and am very expressive. My husband lets life roll, for the most part stays calm, and keeps his thoughts to himself. When conflict arrises between us,…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

Celebrate Differences This is the rule that started the ball rolling with this entire 55 Rules for Love series! During a recent trip to Mexico, my husband and I were struggling with a few of our differences. These struggles inspired me to review a list of love rules called 55 Rules For Love that Michel…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

Don’t Use Comparisons This is sure death to the relationship. There are, in my thoughts, three ways to compare: Comparing your marriage to another couple’s seemingly “perfect” marriage Comparing yourself to your spouse’s past partners Comparing your current partner to a partner of yours in the past My Musings On This… I have struggled with…

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

Don’t Try To Control Control = Fear I have spoken many times during this Rules For Love blog series of my fear and it’s roots in PTSD. Fear, if not understood and embraced to heal in a marriage, creates havoc. Trying to control my husband as a result of my fears and inability to trust,…