Live In The Moment – Be Present There are many spiritual leaders and mindfulness teachers who have written a variety of books on the benefits of living life in the present moment. Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Louise Hay to name a few…. Living life in the present moment while married, as…
Category: 55 Rules for Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough Whatever my going is, that is tough for me, may be very different for Michael and vice versa. Recognizing this is a major first step towards supporting each other. The Going is Tough – Isolation Right now my going is tough. Michael and I are spending the…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly Admitting I’m wrong isn’t always easy. Well, sometimes it is… and is easy to be quick in my apology because it is very evident I’m wrong. Other times, I’m feeling pretty darn sure I’m right, I’m 100% correct, that what I’ve said was appropriate or I have seen the…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us No one likes to be told their faults, especially from those we love; even constructive criticism has a sting to it. I believe no one really likes to be told their faults, because deep down, it really does matter what other people think of us, doesn’t it?…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
Do Not Punish To punish, in my opinion, means I’m holding a resentment – not letting go of a hurt – and want to hurt in return. Hurt people hurt. Rule #5 says don’t say words with the intent to hurt. Click here to read this. Rule # 9 are actions to hurt, rather than…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
Never Be Too Busy For Each Other I really like this rule! I know that no matter how busy my husband is with life, he will make time for me. In this crazy busy, super distracted world we live in of instant gratification and information overload, there is such a warm embrace knowing my husband…
55 Rules For Love – #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy It is okay to agree to disagree. It is, in my opinion, how you handle disagreements that matters. Are you respectful of your lover’s opinion? Can you let differences go? Or do you always have to have your way or be right? When you communicate respectfully to…
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
Accept And Forgive Easily Any form of physical, emotional, or mental abuse does not apply here. Please see Rule # 2 for this. It has been my experience that when I cannot accept and forgive easily, it is because I have not had my eyes wide open. When my eyes are shut, in denial, non-accepting…
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt Hurt people hurt. My husband Michael told me these profound, yet simple words a few years ago. He said this to me, because when I was hurt, I would lash out in anger and frustration, saying words to hurt him, that I would quickly regret. My transition…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility
Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility My first thought on this is Melody Beattie’s book, Codependent No More. Codependency has many definitions, but my favorite is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. When I have someone’s approval for my behavior and…
