Manipulation Means? According to Dictionary.com, the definition of manipulation is: “…influencing or attempting to influence the behavior or emotions of others for one’s own purposes: a manipulative boss.” Psychology Today Canada defines psychological manipulation as one person is used for the benefit of the other – there is not a constructive give and take in…
Category: 55 Rules for Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
Judgement Vs Opinion Don’t judge. My first thought is what is the difference between a judgment and an opinion. An opinion is what I think any given thing “should be”, not necessarily based on facts or knowledge. A judgement is the result of the facts of what I’m thinking about and come to a sensible…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
To What is Being Said – Active Listening Rule #20 is Communicate Openly and Honestly. I write at length about the skill of active listening, a skill that gives space to communicate openly and honestly with each other. I’ve included the link below to read more on this rule: 55 Rules For Love – Rule…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
How We Process and Handle Life How do you and your partner process and handle life? My husband and I are very different. I tend to worry, am reactive and am very expressive. My husband lets life roll, for the most part stays calm, and keeps his thoughts to himself. When conflict arrises between us,…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
Celebrate Differences This is the rule that started the ball rolling with this entire 55 Rules for Love series! During a recent trip to Mexico, my husband and I were struggling with a few of our differences. These struggles inspired me to review a list of love rules called 55 Rules For Love that Michel…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
Don’t Use Comparisons This is sure death to the relationship. There are, in my thoughts, three ways to compare: Comparing your marriage to another couple’s seemingly “perfect” marriage Comparing yourself to your spouse’s past partners Comparing your current partner to a partner of yours in the past My Musings On This… I have struggled with…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy I like this rule – because I believe a wee bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship. Within the many dynamic fibers woven into the matrix of a marriage, is the expression of making each other feel the ultimate special. You are important to me, I value you…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
Don’t Try To Control Control = Fear I have spoken many times during this Rules For Love blog series of my fear and it’s roots in PTSD. Fear, if not understood and embraced to heal in a marriage, creates havoc. Trying to control my husband as a result of my fears and inability to trust,…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
Leave Drama Out Of It. Drama = theatrics = making a big deal over nothing = overreacting = being irrational = acting crazy = Me Well, how I used to be. I’ve come a long way from screaming at my husband during a heated, one-sided argument, as he hides in the car with windows rolled…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
Leave The Past Where It Belongs THIS! This is a WOW rule. SO many layers in this one. Our past makes up the matrix of who we are in this moment. It is the past, our experiences that give us knowledge and wisdom in the present, in the now. Or our past can keep us…
