Oh, 2020!! 2020 is the year of COVID. 2020 is also the year my husband Michael and I spent eight of these 12 months apart while we sorted through the long list of logistics of transferring his life (before us) in British Columbia, to our now life in Nova Scotia, after repatriating from Qatar. Either…
Category: 55 Rules for Love
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
Power Vs Control My first thought on this rule is what is the difference between having power over someone vs having control over someone? Google’s definition of power is, “the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.” Google’s definition of control is, “the power to influence…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either
This Might Be Tough…. If you or your partner are rather rigid in your morals and values and they differ from the other, causing conflict within the relationship. I’m thinking religion, money issues, raising children or politics here. These issues can be deal breakers. It might also be tough when your spouse has morals and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
Took me a long time… …to trust my instincts because I didn’t trust that I could properly interpret what my instincts were telling me; my own issues were in the way. My lenses were worst case scenario at all times – he’s cheating. He’s hiding something. He can’t be trusted. I grew up believing men…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
This! I’m not even sure how to start my thoughts on this rule! There are so many cliche, formulated perspectives on this heavyweight topic – Love yourself as you are, accept your body as it is… Washboard? My take on this rule isn’t an easy one, as I want my body to be in better…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
Need Some Yoda Wisdom This rule requires some serious Jedi wisdom, as navigating each other’s family and friends can, at times, be challenging. Photo credit – Pinterest Everyone Has An Opinion Yes, we do. But are my opinions of my husband’s family and friends based on loving acceptance or from the lenses of my own…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
Opposites attract. The differences that draw a couple together can become a source of many disagreements later in the relationship, if these differences are not embraced. However, there always has to be space to grow and learn as a couple embraces their differences along their path of personal growth and mutual respect. Complacency is certain…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow
Ways to Learn I’m thinking there are two ways a couple can learn: Learn a new hobby or activity together Learn about each other Ways to Grow – Working Together Growing as a couple can blossom while working on a hobby or project together, as this will inevitably bring about how you communicate, collaborate and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
Manipulation Means? According to Dictionary.com, the definition of manipulation is: “…influencing or attempting to influence the behavior or emotions of others for one’s own purposes: a manipulative boss.” Psychology Today Canada defines psychological manipulation as one person is used for the benefit of the other – there is not a constructive give and take in…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
Judgement Vs Opinion Don’t judge. My first thought is what is the difference between a judgment and an opinion. An opinion is what I think any given thing “should be”, not necessarily based on facts or knowledge. A judgement is the result of the facts of what I’m thinking about and come to a sensible…
