My husband Michael told me these profound, yet simple words a few years ago.
He said this to me because when I was angry at him, I would lash out saying words to hurt him that I would quickly regret.
My transition from aggression and going for the throat when arguing, to learning emotional regulation and how to be assertive in a calm, rational way has been and still is a work in progress.
What is helping me along this transformation is an acceptance of what is, letting go of past hurts and resentments. and learning to take a look at myself – remember – love is a mirror.
As well, realizing how absolutely destructive drama and aggression are to a relationship.
I am striving for a peaceful life.
Michael and I are striving for a peaceful life together.
There will be moments between us, between husband and wife, when we disappoint each other or unintentionally hurt each other.
But to sort out these moments, why would I say words to purposely hurt the heart of the man I love?
His heart is his gift to me, a precious gift I nurture with safety, respect and love.
Words are claimed to be more powerful than the sword.
I choose words of love and encouragement.
Not words that hurt.
Originally published: January 15th, 2020
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.