My first thoughts on this are, when we meet someone romantically that has the foundation to possibly develop into love, we’re usually wearing our best faces.
We’re trying our best, trying each day.
When love starts to develop, that can be bumpy too because perhaps the other person’s feelings hasn’t developed or evolved into love. This is a scary place to be for both people.
I think this rule, When it arrives, cherish it, is the most important rule of all, actually. Because how many of us know what real love is? How many families modeled a healthy, balanced, respectful love to their children? How many of us were shown how to cherish love when it arrives? How many of us as children, watched our own parents protect and care for their love for each other?
Maybe for some, they grew up in such a home.
Maybe for others, they learned that love hurts. Or love means self-sacrifice, to be a martyr. And so on..
How was love modeled in your home?
How can we cherish love, if we don’t know and understand what real love is?
What if we don’t think we’re worthy of love? Or have the energy or time to actually invest in purposely loving another – because love is a verb – love is action.
I think love should always be cherished, each day – because complacency is a slippery slide down into a numbing place of unhappiness. Love isn’t an immediate fairytale, happy ending. Love requires work, an effort – each and every day that will bring you outside of your comfort zone as you work towards deepening your emotional connection to each other. Love is finding someone you want to cherish because you want to hold hands together, grow old together, laugh together, cry together, be still….together. Always.
I dedicate this blog to my parents. My mom remarried and my stepfather is my “father”. Mom and DV have modeled love and commitment to me. They cherish and love each other each and every day. They are each other’s priority. They are true love. I am so very grateful they are my parents.
Originally published: January 10th, 2020
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.