Sex is fun!
It’s even funner when your relationship has a solid, mature foundation built on trust, transparency, respect and communication. This opens up the door for two consenting adults to be able to SAFELY discover and explore what turns each other on!
There is an entire world out there of ways to have fun with sex! From watching porn or erotica together, going to a strip club together, creating your own private sex room, or turning your bedroom or kitchen table to a platform for pleasure!
Find what works for you both and enjoy it!
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Deepens Your Connection
As you share your deepest sexual fantasies with your partner, and they receive this information with the utmost respect while you talk it through, explore it and figure out how to satisfy your desires; this will deepen your emotional connection.
Sex isn’t something to be shamed or judged. It is as unique as you are, as fun as you are, as curious as you are, as erotic as you are. It’s an enjoyable part of being human!
But, as mentioned earlier, sex can get messy if your relationship isn’t rock solid. Sex is one of the deepest forms of intimacy between lovers. It takes a lot of maturity, trust, transparency, and confidence to fully explore what turns you both on.
Learn About Each Other
You can really learn more about each other as you each take courageous risks to share what turns you on. This vulnerability also presents an opportunity to practice self-care skills such as assertiveness and boundaries, if either you or your beloved are unexpectedly triggered and need to stop.
Navigating through triggers by providing emotional support such as active listening, compassion, and empathy will bring you closer together. How triggers are handled or not handled will possibly reflect issues you’ll need to work through before moving ahead.
Darkness to Light
There is a dark side to everything that is light here on this planet. Sex is very much a part of that. Your lenses, how you view sex, will of course come to light as you bravely step foot into exploring each other’s sexuality. Sexual trauma might very well be in either or both of your histories.
If this is the case, perhaps intervention with a skilled therapist can help you heal past wounds together.
To take the darkness out of sex and turn it into an embodied, beautiful, sacred experience.
There is something so very sacred with feeling safe enough to share your deepest sexual fantasies and desires with your beloved; to fully discover what turns each other on and explore it.
Spiritual teacher and author, Eckhart Tolle talks about people loving at their level of consciousness. It takes an exceptional amount of consciousness to navigate a rich and satisfying sex life together with the purpose of enhancing your emotional and physical connectedness.
Turned On To Life – Passion
Michael, my husband, had a great thought. He added that there are other ways to be “turned on” beyond sexually. This is when you take a deep dive into the experience of the whatever exciting moment you’re in, be it archeology, basketball, being in the thick of it within a raging wind storm, golfing or fishing, playing music, or snorkeling amongst the turtles.
This is awakening or experiencing a passion for life.
Allowing passion to flourish with your beloved as you explore what turns you on is a deeply expressive experience, sometimes transcendent, as you loose yourself in the pleasures of the skin and taken to a place of heightened pleasures in what feels like an altered erotic reality; something supernatural, otherworldly like, expanding your consciousness.
Your Life Is Now
As I start the second half of my life on the other side of 50 years old, I am acutely aware of how valuable time is. Every moment that passes takes me closer to the end of my life. I am so very aware that EVERY MOMENT in my life matters. Every moment. When I’m at the end of my life, I want to look back without regret because I lived. I risked. I loved, whole heartedly. I found my way through difficult paths, to find my truth, my belonging.
This isn’t a dress rehearsal.
Your life is now.
Discover what turns you on, and explore it!
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.