55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight

Not Always Easy

Sometimes, when I’m deeply hurt or really angry, it takes me time to lower the shield that defends my heart. I need time and space to process my emotions, to then know how to proceed with the issue that has ignited a fight between my husband and I.

True, if we sleep on a fight – something might happen to my beloved during the night, and when I wake up I will forever be left with the regret that I went to bed angry at him.

It’s possible, but is it probable?

How can a night of needing space to process hurt and anger overshadow a marriage of two people completely committed to each other?

The Ideal

These 55 Runs For Love, are an ideal.

A way.

A pathway to walk towards.

They’re not easy, but I’d rather be walking this path, than the alternative. To have an awareness of ways to deepen my connection with my husband and make my marriage a relationship where we can feel safe enough to truly blossom and thrive as an individual and as a couple.

To give each other space to process life, as it happens.

Middle Ground

What I’ve thought of as I’ve contemplated this rule, is finding a softer way to sleep on a fight. This would include communicating that I need some time and space to process what I’m hurt/angry at to then find a helpful solution that is proactive and a win-win for everyone. Something like that.

Or, we could just stay up all night, and fight! That can be fun too, especially the make-up part!! Anger can be a fiery fuel for change and can be very fun in the bedroom!

Joking aside, while not always easy, this rule has a lot of merit in finding a way back to a peaceful heart!

S, 🌼

Quote - Phyllis Diller - Never Go to Bed Mad - Stay up and Fight

Photo Credit – AZQuotes

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Covered in Dead Sea Mud – Dead Sea, Jordan

About me: Stephanie Wells

I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.

55 Rules For Love:

Study Of “The 55 Rules For Love”

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends

55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid

55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either

55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance

55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow

55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare

55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot

55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend

55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games

55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts

55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often

55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said

55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day

55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars

55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together

55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender

55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change

55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight

2 Comments Add yours

  1. mama says:

    And then there are times when we all have to “Agree to Disagree”
    We are all different and are BOTH entitled to our opinions!
    It would be a dull life if we were all the same…Heart plus Head makes a great combo…but never loose your independent personality …ever!
    Been there…done that…have the T-Shirt …and that is LOVE!!!❤️👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

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    1. Wise words, mama!!! 🙏🏻☀️💛🌼

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