Took me a long time…
…to trust my instincts because I didn’t trust that I could properly interpret what my instincts were telling me; my own issues were in the way.
My lenses were worst case scenario at all times – he’s cheating. He’s hiding something. He can’t be trusted. I grew up believing men cheated on women because my biological father cheated on my mother – whom my mother divorced.
Trust
Is earned, starting with myself. It took a lot of work on myself: recognizing my personal values, and making decisions each day to honor my personal values – that I learned I could trust myself to take care of myself. This allowed me space to hear what my instincts had to say about my husband – free from my fear-based lenses of “he’s cheating”.
Don’t Be Paranoid = Having Faith
Faith in another person is to have complete trust and confidence in them; to believe what we cannot see so we can believe what we see.
Paranoid is to see what I want to see, because when I’m paranoid I’ll interpret everything into the proof I’m looking for.
Discerning the difference between paranoia and faith… is trust.
Be Fully Present
Only by having space to clearly hear what my instincts have to say about my husband, will I truly be present to him – and understand his subtle nuances that aren’t easily communicated – deepening our emotional connection.
S, 🍁

About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.
55 Rules For Love:
55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
55 Rules For Love – #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow
Couldn’t agree more, trust your instincts and be confident in yourself so you don’t project your insecurities on the relationship and others:)
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Exactly!! Well said!! Thank you for reading my blog! 🌻
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As always, great advice.
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Thank you, Maggie… 🌻🌻🌻
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