55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

Judgement Vs Opinion

Don’t judge.

My first thought is what is the difference between a judgment and an opinion.

An opinion is what I think any given thing “should be”, not necessarily based on facts or knowledge. A judgement is the result of the facts of what I’m thinking about and come to a sensible conclusion.

But, that doesn’t really define judgement to me. Judging someone has a negative tone to it. Judging, to me, is the insensitive, harsh and partially informed opinion I make on another.

Journey from the Mind to the Heart

I’ve heard it said in the rooms of recovery that the longest journey to take is from the mind to the heart. I would have to agree, and apply this to the transition from wearing the lenses of judging to the lenses of compassion. Judging is the mind. Compassion is the heart.

In any relationship – not judging the other person is very difficult, because we’re around them so much. But, that is part of the journey of love – the steps from the mind to the heart – to stop ourselves looking with harsh, impatient eyes at our beloved, and look with kind, compassionate eyes fueled from our heart.

This transition takes awareness. A knowing. A conscious effort.

S, ❤️

About me: Stephanie Wells

I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.

55 Rules For Love:

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule #3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule #6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule #13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends

55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid

55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either

55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance

9 Comments Add yours

  1. Margie says:

    “Judging is the mind. Compassion is the heart.”
    Those words are so very true and so very meaningful, Stephanie.
    It is always such a joy to visit you.
    You share so much of your heart!
    Love the photo of you two ‘lovebirds’ Those smiles! 🙂
    ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. As always, Margie you’re so kind and wonderful!!! Thank you…. ❤️❤️❤️

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      1. Margie says:

        Awwww, thank you! ❤

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      2. ❤️❤️❤️

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  2. M'bolla says:

    Now you summed it up with those lovely banner quotes. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Thank you!!!! ❤️🌻🙏🏻🌼

      Like

    1. ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Diane!!!! 🌻🌻🌻

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      1. You’re welcome!!!

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