This is sure death to the relationship. There are, in my thoughts, three ways to compare:
Comparing your marriage to another couple’s seemingly “perfect” marriage
Comparing yourself to your spouse’s past partners
Comparing your current partner to a partner of yours in the past
My Musings On This…
I have struggled with comparing myself to others for many years, because of chronic self-doubt and low self-confidence. However, my self-doubt has gradually started to diminish and my self-confidence has grown, especially during this 50th year of my life.
During these days of the COVID-19 pandemic, I find myself tired out for many reasons. New challenges present themselves daily, allowing for many moments that call upon my character to either sink or swim in my mindset of adapting. It is here where I may fall into the trap of comparing, wondering if others are handling this better than I.
It is here, during these times of finding the strength to adapt, that comparing myself of any kind kills my soul.
While these musings do not directly link to the comparisons that can happen in a marriage, I guess my underlying message is that comparison of any kind kills. When a comparison within myself starts, it kills my soul, my spirit, my very personality and then starts to kill all that is beautiful within me and around me.
Beacon of Courage and Hope During These Dark Days
As I stay away from any type of comparisons, both personally and in my marriage, I will allow my personality to shine bright with courage and confidence, especially during this COVID-19 pandemic. My confidence and courage will deepen my connection to my husband and perhaps join a worldwide beacon of courage and hope during these dark days.
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.