There are many spiritual leaders and mindfulness teachers who have written a variety of books on the benefits of living life in the present moment. Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Louise Hay to name a few…

Living life in the present moment while married, as in all aspects of life, brings so much peace and happiness. Being present means I am inwardly open to intuitively see and hear what is happening in the now.

I connect with my husband in the now.

I am not directed by past troubles or future worries.

I do not react to any moment with the lens of the past or the future.

I do not react at all.

I’m smooth.

I’m proactive with clearly focused lenses, looking into the now.

My heart is at peace, and filled with love.

Maslow

It is not easy to be mindful, to just be in any moment. Yet, there is a peaceful calm of security and love within it. Staying in this peaceful calm, at all times is also impossible – because we are humans.

As well, it can take some mileage together as a couple to eventually feel comfortable enough, safe enough to fully relax in front of each other. Fears, insecurities (more fear!), self-doubt (fear again!), etc… all the usual growing pains of a committed relationship take time to nurture away.

My husband and I are in year five of our life together. My mind just made a leap to thinking about where we are at on Maslow’s well known Hierarchy of Needs. We’ve been moving up and down on this scale as our life goes on, we face fears and strive to grow together.

It is far more challenging to live in the present moment when a couple is living in a state of fear. That said, when life is at its hardest and things feel out of control, inner-smoothness helps when stepping into chaos together.

Life of Peaceful Calm – Living in the Present Moment

Peaceful calm is the life my husband and I truly want. But life isn’t easy. Life throws upper cuts and stomach punches. Sometimes on a daily basis. Taking a moment to ground, breathe, and become in the now…and be present for one another from our hearts is such a sophisticated gift to our marriage and each other….

Can’t say I’m always there, but I try!

Yoda..I know you say, “Do or do not. There is no try.”

But hey, I’m no Jedi Master…yet!

S, ❤️

Originally published: February 15th, 2020

55 Rules For Love:

Study Of “The 55 Rules For Love”

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends

55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid

55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either

55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance

55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow

55 Rules for Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare

55 Rules For Love – Rule #33 – Have Fun, Laugh and Play – A Lot

55 Rules For Love – Rule #34 – Be Each Other’s Best Friend

55 Rules For Love – Rule #35 – Don’t Play Mind Games

55 Rules For Love – Rule #36 – Do Not Carelessly Throw Away Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #37 – Don’t Waste Energy With Negative Thoughts

55 Rules For Love – Rule #38 – Compliment Often

55 Rules For Love – Rule #39 – Discover Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #40 – Be Attentive And Understand What’s Not Said

55 Rules For Love – Rule #41 – Do At Least One Romantic And Thoughtful Thing Every Day

55 Rules For Love – Rule #42 – Take Picnics And Sleep Under The Stars

55 Rules For Love – Rule #43 – Don’t Just Speak About It, Show Love

55 Rules For Love – Rule #44 – Walk Together, Cook Together, Bathe Together, Read Together

55 Rules For Love – Rule #45 – Do Not Be Afraid, Love Requires Surrender

55 Rules For Love – Rule #46 – Be Loyal And Faithful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #47 – Trust

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 48 – Be Grateful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #49 – Fluidity Is Good, Accept Change

55 Rules For Love – Rule #50 – Don’t Sleep On A Fight

55 Rules For Love – Rule #51 – Don’t Cling To It, Know When To Let Go

55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Discover What Turns You Both On And Explore It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #52 – Make Love, But Also F*ck (Regularly)

55 Rules For Love – Rule #54 – Give And Receive Without Measure

55 Rules For Love – Rule #55 – Never Gamble With What You Can’t Afford To Lose