There are many spiritual leaders and mindfulness teachers who have written a variety of books on the benefits of living life in the present moment. Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Louise Hay to name a few….
Living life in the present moment while married, as in all aspects of life, brings so much inner peace and happiness. Being present means I am inwardly open to intuitively see and hear what is happening in the now. I connect with my husband in the now. I am not directed by past troubles or future worries. I do not react to any moment with the lens of the past or the future. I do not react at all. Period. I act. I am proactive with lenses that are clearly focused in the now.
My heart is at peace, and filled with love.
It is not easy to be mindful, to just be in any moment. Yet, there is a peaceful calm of security and love within it.
If you are not a regular practitioner of mindfulness or have very few fears and insecurities, in my experience, it takes some mileage together as a couple to comfortably just be with each other in your marriage or partnership, however you label your relationship with your significant other.
Fears, insecurities (more fear!), self-doubt (fear again!), etc… all the usual growing pains of a committed relationship take time to nurture away.
My husband and I are in year five together. While I believe a marriage should never stop growing and changing to evolve with the passing years…this year together has cemented the foundation of our commitment and love for each other. From here we grow up. ❤ I’m suddenly thinking of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Michael and I are in year five of our marriage – there are five tiers to this pyramid. It seems to fit….
Anyway, I’ve digressed from the topic of living in the present moment. However, I will comment that it is far more challenging to live in the present moment when one is living in a state of fear.
Life of Peaceful Calm – Living in the Present Moment
Peaceful calm is the life my husband and I truly want. But life isn’t easy. Life throws upper cuts and stomach punches. Sometimes on a daily basis. Taking a moment to ground, breathe, and become in the now…and be present for one another from our hearts is such a sophisticated gift to our marriage and each other….
Can’t say I’m always there, but I try!
Yoda..I know you say, “Do or do not. There is no try” but hey I’m no Jedi Master!!
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.