Well, sometimes it is… and is easy to be quick in my apology because it is very evident I’m wrong.
Other times, I’m feeling pretty darn sure I’m right, I’m 100% correct, that what I’ve said was appropriate or I have seen the situation in the proper light of day.
Quickly is the Key Word
Ego. Pride. These are the driving energies behind my unwillingness to yield, to quickly admit I’m wrong. Usually embarrassment plays a part as well.
But I ALWAYS know, deep down, that something I’ve said or done wasn’t right.
The faster I own up and apologize, the easier it is for life to return to normal.
How the Apology is Accepted Matters
When I admit I’m wrong, how my husband Michael receives it plays a part as well. I’d like to think that how he accepts my apology doesn’t matter, but it does. If he’s a total butthead and says “I told you so!” or something along those lines, then I immediately regret my vulnerability, my heartfelt action of sincere apology.
How the Apology is Given, Matters Too
How I apologize also counts. Big time. If I’m not sincere and heartfelt, but a total butthead and apologize in a begrudging, mocking manner – just to get this awkward situation out of the way and call it done – or apologize just because Michael thinks I owe him one – then the apology doesn’t count.
I have to mean what I say, and have a total understanding of why I was wrong. A sincere, heartfelt apology, in my opinion, includes a deeper understanding of how my actions or words hurt Michael, along with a description of how I could have handled the situation differently.
Maturity, emotional intelligence, grace, compassion, empathy and acceptance… these sophisticated ingredients are what makes apologizing and the acceptance of it a beautiful moment of emotional connection and closeness between us.
Love isn’t an easy journey. But, it sure is worth it…..
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.