55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

Admitting I’m wrong isn’t always easy.

Well, sometimes it is… and is easy to be quick in my apology because it is very evident I’m wrong.

Other times, I’m feeling pretty darn sure I’m right, I’m 100% correct, that what I’ve said was appropriate or I have seen the situation in the proper light of day.

Quickly is the Key Word

Ego. Pride. These are the driving energies behind my unwillingness to yield, to quickly admit I’m wrong. Usually embarrassment plays a part as well.

But I ALWAYS know, deep down, that something I’ve said or done wasn’t right.

The faster I own up and apologize, the easier it is for life to return to normal.

How the Apology is Accepted Matters

When I admit I’m wrong, how my husband Michael receives it plays a part as well. I’d like to think that how he accepts my apology doesn’t matter, but it does. If he’s a total butthead and says “I told you so!” or something along those lines, then I immediately regret my vulnerability, my heartfelt action of sincere apology.

How the Apology is Given, Matters Too

How I apologize also counts. Big time. If I’m not sincere and heartfelt, but a total butthead and apologize in a begrudging, mocking manner – just to get this awkward situation out of the way and call it done – or apologize just because Michael thinks I owe him one – then the apology doesn’t count.

I have to mean what I say, and have a total understanding of why I was wrong. A sincere, heartfelt apology, in my opinion, includes a deeper understanding of how my actions or words hurt Michael, along with a description of how I could have handled the situation differently.

Sophisticated Ingredients

Maturity, emotional intelligence, grace, compassion, empathy and acceptance… these sophisticated ingredients are what makes apologizing and the acceptance of it a beautiful moment of emotional connection and closeness between us.

Love isn’t an easy journey. But, it sure is worth it…..

S, ❤

About me: Stephanie Wells

I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.

Reiki Picture - 2018 - Doha, Qatar

55 Rules For Love:

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule #6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule #13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Margie says:

    Wonderful advice, Stephanie on ‘the art of an apology!
    Thank you!
    You and Michael are such a cute couple! ❤

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Margie!!!! Well, Michael and I are a work in progress! A deep love yes, that rebounds wonderfully after the slam. Till death do us part! 😉 ❤ ❤ ❤

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