55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

 Do Not Punish

To punish, in my opinion, means I’m holding a resentment – not letting go of a hurt – and want to hurt in return.

Hurt people hurt.

Rule #5 says don’t say words with the intent to hurt. Click here to read this.

Rule # 9 are actions to hurt, rather than words. To punish.

Examples would be purposely holding back affections, snubbing your husband, wife, partner, however you choose to call your significant other, after a hurt of some kind. Withholding sex. The quiet treatment. The cold shoulder. Being dismissive and passive aggressive. And aggression.

Why would I want to punish, intentionally hurt the heart of my husband, when he is already feeling bad enough for hurting me? My husband would never purposely hurt me. We all make mistakes. To be accepted and forgiven easily (Rule # 6), to let it go, is what we all want when we’ve made a mistake and have hurt another.

For me, when I’ve hurt my husband and have quickly taken ownership for this with a wholehearted apology… all I want to do is melt in his arms, to hold each other, heal each other and let it go…

Love is action. Love is the opposite of punishment.

S, ❤

About me: Stephanie Wells

I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.

Reiki Picture - 2018 - Doha, Qatar

55 Rules For Love:

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule #6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule #13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs

55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control

55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons

55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences

55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully

55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge

55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results

55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow

55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends

55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful

55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid

55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either

55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance

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