To punish, in my opinion, means I’m holding a resentment – not letting go of a hurt – and want to hurt in return.
Hurt people hurt.
Rule #5 says don’t say words with the intent to hurt. Click here to read this.
Rule # 9 are actions to hurt, rather than words. To punish.
Examples would be purposely holding back affections, snubbing your husband, wife, partner, however you choose to call your significant other, after a hurt of some kind. Withholding sex. The quiet treatment. The cold shoulder. Being dismissive and passive aggressive. And aggression.
Why would I want to punish, intentionally hurt the heart of my husband, when he is already feeling bad enough for hurting me? My husband would never purposely hurt me. We all make mistakes. To be accepted and forgiven easily (Rule # 6), to let it go, is what we all want when we’ve made a mistake and have hurt another.
For me, when I’ve hurt my husband and have quickly taken ownership for this with a wholehearted apology… all I want to do is melt in his arms, to hold each other, heal each other and let it go…
Love is action. Love is the opposite of punishment.
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.