Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
It is okay to agree to disagree.
It is, in my opinion, how you handle disagreements that matters.
Are you respectful of your lover’s opinion? Can you let differences go? Or do you always have to have your way or be right?
When you communicate respectfully to your husband, wife, spouse, however you choose to call your significant other, that you do not agree with an action, behavior, opinion they put forth then you are engaging in honest dialogue, while feeling safe enough with your spouse to speak your truth.
But ask yourself, how important is is?
Don’t nit-pick. Author Richard Carlson says it exactly true in his gem of a book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Marriage.
However, there are fundamental opinions and differences that can cause big bumps. Family is a significant one. So are views on future plans and goals. What are priorities? What are deal-breakers?
Again, it is HOW these difficult conversations are nurtured. Are differences scorned and judged? Or are they accepted as is, looked at with supportive eyes, and heard with active listening along with a willingness to compromise?
Tricky this one is… because it all comes down to mutual respect, support and honest communication. And our mood at the moment plays a part too. If we’re grumpy when a difference happens, active listening may not happen immediately.
Communicating on why the topic of difference is important to your spouse – understanding their view on it and why they have that opinion is helpful as well. This is another excellent avenue of connecting on a deeper emotional level. With a deeper understanding of why a difference truly matters to your partner, compromise on your part may be easier, is genuine and comes from the heart.
As Steven Covey says, seek first to understand.
S, ❤
About me: Stephanie Wells
I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.
55 Rules For Love:
55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get
55 Rules For Love – Rule #5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt
55 Rules For Love – Rule #6 – Accept And Forgive Easily
55 Rules For Love – Rule #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other
55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish
55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us
55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough
55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present
55 Rules For Love – Rule #14 – Leave The Past Where It Belongs
55 Rules For Love – Rule #15 – Leave Drama Out Of It
55 Rules For Love – Rule #16 – Don’t Try To Control
55 Rules For Love – Rule #17 – Allow A Small Amount of Jealousy
55 Rules For Love – Rule #18 – Don’t Use Comparisons
55 Rules For Love – Rule #19 – Celebrate Differences
55 Rules For Love – Rule #20 – Communicate Openly and Honestly
55 Rules For Love – Rule #21 – Listen Very Carefully
55 Rules For Love – Rule #22 – Don’t Judge
55 Rules For Love – Rule #23 – Don’t Manipulate To Get Results
55 Rules For Love – Rule #24 – Learn and Grow
55 Rules For Love – Rule #25 – Don’t Try To Change Each Other
