55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

Hurt people hurt.

My husband Michael told me these profound, yet simple words a few years ago.

He said this to me, because when I was hurt, I would lash out in anger and frustration, saying words to hurt him, that I would quickly regret.

My transition from aggression and going for the throat when arguing, to learning emotional regulation – how to be assertive in a calm, rational way took some work.

What helped me along this transformation is an acceptance of what is, letting go of past hurts and resentments. and learning to take a look at myself – remember – love is a mirror.

As well, realizing how absolutely destructive drama and aggression are to a relationship.

I am striving for a peaceful life. Michael and I are striving for a peaceful life together.

There will be moments between us, between husband and wife when we disappoint each other or unintentionally hurt each other. But to sort out these moments, why would I say words to purposely hurt the heart of the man I love? His heart is his gift to me, a precious gift I nurture with safety, respect and love.

Words are claimed to be more powerful than the sword.

I choose words of love and encouragement. Not words that hurt.

S, ❤

About me: Stephanie Wells

I’m a Reiki Master Teacher of Usui Shiki Ryoho – the Usui System of Natural Healing. I was attuned in Levels I, II & IIIA in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. During a 6 week stay in Mararikulam North, Kerala, India I was reattuned in Levels I, II, & IIIA as well as acquiring my Level IIIB Master Teacher attunement.

Reiki Picture - 2018 - Doha, Qatar

55 Rules For Love:

55 Rules For Love – Rule #1 – When It Arrives, Cherish It

55 Rules For Love – Rule #2 – Whatever You Accept, You Will Get

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 3 – Understand That Love Is A Mirror – It Will Show Us Who We Are If We Allow It To

55 Rules For Love – Rule #4 – Only We Can Make Ourselves Happy, It Is Not The Other Person’s Responsibility

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 5 – Don’t Say Words With The Intent To Hurt

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 6 – Accept And Forgive Easily

55 Rules For Love – #7 – Don’t Be Scared To Disagree, It Is Healthy

55 Rules For Love – Rule #8 – Never Be Too Busy For Each Other

55 Rules For Love – Rule #9 – Do Not Punish

55 Rules For Love – Rule #10 – Accept Honest Criticism, It Is Good For Us

55 Rules For Love – Rule #11 – Admit When You Are Wrong, Quickly

55 Rules For Love – Rule #12 – Support Each Other When The Going Gets Tough

55 Rules For Love – Rule # 13 – Live In The Moment – Be Present

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