Don’t Take Life Too Seriously These COVID days are tedious. Wearing a mask all day isn’t pleasant. Constant hand sanitizing ruins my hands. Social distancing and cohorts emphasize dis-connection. While all of these precautions are necessary – life just feels harder because of it. Having fun, laughing and playing together makes these tedious COVID days…
AM I: In a Panic Attack or Trauma Response or Dissociation or Menopause? How Do I Tell The Difference?
This is my question for the morning as I ponder a rough night last night. Is what I went through a panic attack? A trauma response? Dissociation? Or menopause? Or, all of the above? It is not my first time having these stressful episodes that make me feel like I am loosing my mind, that…
W.A.I.T.
Why Am I Talking There is lots of information on the internet explaining this acronym, with many spins on it. Communication is so important, and I’ve certainly learned that it is incredibly helpful to think about the motive behind my need to communicate. By asking myself what am I trying to say and why? And……
55 Rules For Love – Rule #32 – Accept That You Are Both Unique – Never Compare
Opposites Attract! This aphorism has been a common theme throughout this blog series. Our unique abilities, that are attractive to our partner, can be very different from the unique abilities our beloved brings to the table. Photo Credit – Pinterest Photo Credit – Ellevate Accept vs Compare In my marriage, my husband is impulsive, juggles…
55 Rules for Love – Rule #31 – Space Is Needed To Breathe And To Grow
Oh, 2020!! 2020 is the year of COVID. 2020 is also the year my husband Michael and I spent eight of these 12 months apart while we sorted through the long list of logistics of transferring his life (before us) in British Columbia, to our now life in Nova Scotia after repatriating from Qatar. Either…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #30 – Instead of Power, Aim For Balance
Power Vs Control My first thought on this rule is what is the difference between having power over someone vs having control over someone? Google’s definition of power is, “the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.” Google’s definition of control is, “the power to influence…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #29 – Don’t Compromise Your Morals And Values And Don’t Expect Them To Either
This Might Be Tough…. If you or your partner are rather rigid in your morals and values and they differ from the other, causing conflict within the relationship. I’m thinking religion, money issues, raising children or politics here. These issues can be deal breakers. It might also be tough when your spouse has morals and…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #28 – Trust Your Instincts, But Don’t Be Paranoid
Took me a long time… …to trust my instincts because I didn’t trust that I could properly interpret what my instincts were telling me; my own issues were in the way. My lenses were worst case scenario at all times – he’s cheating. He’s hiding something. He can’t be trusted. I grew up believing men…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #27 – Lines, Flaws and Imperfections are Beautiful
This! I’m not even sure how to start my thoughts on this rule. There are so many cliche, formulated perspectives on this heavyweight topic – Love yourself as you are, accept your body as it is… Washboard? My take on this rule isn’t an easy one, as I want my body to be in better…
55 Rules For Love – Rule #26 – Don’t Condemn Each Other’s Family and Friends
Need Some Yoda Wisdom This rule requires some serious Jedi wisdom, as navigating each other’s family and friends can, at times, be challenging. Photo credit – Pinterest Everyone Has An Opinion Yes, we do. But are my opinions of my husband’s family and friends based on loving acceptance or from the lenses of my own…